In this day and age, it seems like everyone has a significant other.
Seriously, think about it. If you don’t have a boy/girlfriend, you’re immediately assumed to be ‘playing hard to get’, or unable to get someone to date you. And it’s plain stupid. We’re allowed to be single! We’re allowed to say, “I’m not ready for a relationship like that. I’m not ready to search for the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.” So here are five reasons it’s completely and totally okay to be single.
*disclaimer* I have never been in a relationship, so all of my reasons are from observing other people’s dating triumphs and woes. These are not by any means from personal experience.
1. You have time to discover who you are. If you’re constantly attached at the hip to a SO, you don’t have time to discover your passions, your shortcomings and strengths. If you break up with that person, you won’t know what to do with yourself! Being single gives you that extra time to discover new things about yourself, that you wouldn’t otherwise.
2. You can build a relationship with God. If you’re constantly date, date, dating, you’ll never have a good, healthy relationship with the Lord. Being single lets you pray more frequently, to strengthen your bond to Him.
3. You’ll be able to take your time. Relax! Without having to worry about dates, you can hang out with your friends, dedicate yourself to your school or your hobbies, and remember: there will never be a shortage of the opposite gender. When you’re ready to commit yourself to finding a furture spouse, there will still be plenty of great guys and gals out there.
4. You won’t have the dreaded drama. There’s always drama after a breakup, one way or the other. If you and the person you break up with are both mature, responsible humans, and you mutually agree to end the relationship, then you can avoid most of the drama. But sadly, that doesn’t happen extremely often, so if you’re not dating at all, you won’t have to deal with the awkwardness, the gossip, and all the other downfalls.
And most importantly…
5. You don’t need another person to be happy! You can be perfectly happy without having a girl/boyfriend. Build good relationships with your family and friends instead! Spend time doing what you love, and you’ll be happy without the help of a significant other.